If think that the "bribe and threaten" method of discipline (euphemistically known as 'giving consequences')might be doing harm to your relationship to your child and their development, you are right! Read this book, and learn a saner way that works. You will feel enormous relief as will your kids, and be much more effective than you ever thought possible. The book really is more about parenting than family conflict despite what the title indicates. Great in conjunction with The Anger Habit with Relationships, and stylistically an improvement over the original Anger Habit.